Archive for November, 2007

Real Friends Don’t Have To Be Real

posted by Momo Fali on November 4, 2007
My husband and I have often discussed where our children get particular traits. Both kids have my detached earlobes, my sweet-tooth, and an inclination toward being overly sensitive. My husband is clearly responsible for our daughter’s big, blue eyes, her competitive nature, and our son’s affinity for pushing people to their limits.

But for certain, they get their imaginations from me.

When I was a child, I didn’t just have an imaginary friend…I had a whole family. Fourteen brothers and sisters, all named, aged, and with defined personalities. My position in the brood was smack-dab between two sets of twins.

When my daughter was younger, she had three such imaginary friends. But, whereas I kept mine a secret, she openly told people about hers. They went everywhere with us. One time we had to go so far as to GO BACK to church one Sunday, because she said we left one of them there. I will never forget holding my crying daughter, watching my husband walk down the aisle into an empty pew and grab the air as if he had lifted a child.

Our son’s good friend, however, isn’t actually imaginary…he’s inanimate. His best buddy is a soccer ball, and because it reminds us so much of Castaway, we gave “him” the name Wilson. Wilson gets good-morning hugs, plays hide-and-seek with our son, and is starting to show some serious signs of wear and tear. Nobody can make our son laugh like Wilson either. We’re not sure what he’s saying, but apparently, he’s quite the comedian.

So, unfortunately, when our son acts like a smart-aleck, I can’t say to my husband, “He gets that from you”…even though he does. Because all my husband has to do is point at a beat-up, tattered soccer ball to put me in my place.
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Take Your List And Shove It

posted by Momo Fali on November 1, 2007

This morning the homepage on my computer had a survey asking who is the least-attractive, female star in Hollywood. I suppose the brilliant mind behind this survey took their lead from Maxim magazine’s recent list, which has received quite a bit of publicity. Though, not the uproarious publicity it deserves. It seems there are actually sad, little, shallow-minded individuals who care about some sexist fool’s “bottom-five”.

I don’t know who compiled the list for Maxim. I don’t know if it was a man or a woman. I’m not giving their web-site the traffic to check it out. Either way, I’m guessing the guilty party has some female relatives. A sister, an aunt, a niece…a daughter. At the very least, they have a Mother who carried them and bore them. She probably didn’t look too attractive squeezing their block-headed-numbskull out of her either.

In fairness, I can’t just point the finger at Maxim or my cable company. There are lists like these all over the place. I have a daughter who isn’t aware of them yet, and I wish I could shield her from the ignorance and emptiness of that portion of our society forever, but unfortunately I can’t.

At this point, I can only hope that she will grow up to be well-adjusted and know that she is exquisite, no matter what anyone ever says. I want her to know that being humble equals refinement. That kindness equals beauty. And, above all…that people deserve respect.