posted by Momo Fali on May 10, 2012


Give me a minute to wrap my head around that.

To be honest, it’s hard to wrap your head around something when you’ve spent the last ten years spinning about. Half the time, I haven’t even known where my head is.

The decade since you were born has been the longest, most stress-filled quarter of my life. I’ve watched you get poked, prodded and wheeled away from me to an operating room over and over again. I’ve seen you choke and vomit so many times, it would be impossible to count. And, there were times that we saw so many different doctors and therapists that I felt like you were a pinball; bounced here and there, from one cold stethoscope to another.

Would I change all of that if I could? Yes. In a heartbeat. Would I change the person you are because of it? Never.

Sure, I wish things were easier for you. I wish that you had more friends. I wish open-heart surgery wasn’t looming over your head. I wish that you didn’t need hearing aids, or sensory cushions at school, and that your small stature wouldn’t limit you.

But, if your life had been easy then you would just be a typical kid. You wouldn’t be the funny, unpredictable, clever, kind, insightful child you are now. Every needle, every analysis, every illness and every remedy made you who you are. And, you are somewhere we never thought you would be.

You are ten.

Happy Birthday to my amazing boy.



  • BusyDad

    You know when your favorite celebrities get old and you’re like what? How did that happen? Yeah, this. Favorite celebrity.

  • BusyDad

    Oh, see, I was so awestruck that I forgot to wish you a happy birthday, kiddo.

  • Momo Fali

    Dude, you’re in luck! He still looks like he’s five, so we can PRETEND!

  • Anna Hettick

    He’s so adorable! Happy Birthday!! =)

  • Tara R.

    Happy Birthday to your amazing little man. Hope it’s his best yet.

  • dysfunctional mom

    Happy Birthday to him! We just have no idea what we’re getting into when we embark on this Motherhood thing, do we?

  • Karen from Chookooloonks

    Happiest of birthdays to your beautiful son. πŸ™‚


  • Schmutzie

    What a beautiful kid! And what a beautiful tribute.

    Happy birthday πŸ™‚

  • muffintopmommy

    Happy birthday, handsome boy!

  • Melisa

    I LOVE this boy. That reminds me, we’re overdue for our post-Easter Google Hangout. Let’s do that next week, shall we? Happy birthday to him!! Yaaaaay!

    • Momo Fali

      I love that you’re talking about the Google+ hangout with my son, and not me! Wait until summer break. I’m going to need your Google+ babysitting services.

      • Melisa

        haha! We both know you’re WAY too busy for me.

        Talking to a captive audience like your new 10yo is great for one’s self esteem. I can’t wait! (oh, and you can join in if you HAVE TIME. *snort*)

  • DarleneMam

    He looks like the kind of kid I love to hang with. And I’m real picky.
    Happy 10th birthday to your miracle child!

  • Sadia

    Happy, happy birthday!!! I do believe he was *5* when I first “met” him. Just, wow!

  • sassymonkey

    10! Yay 10! Happy birthday!

  • Victoria

    I’d go out on the town arm in arm with that handsome young lad anytime. DS9 would be on my other arm. Happy birthday, l’il dude!

  • tracey

    Happy Birthday! 10 is pretty cool!!

  • ascapecodturns

    Double digits!!!! Way to go! He is absolutely adorable! Good job, MOMO!!! πŸ™‚

  • Patty at A Day in My NYC

    Happy Birthday to your amazing son! πŸ™‚

  • Stormy

    Happy Happy Birthday! he’s come a long way baby! Enjoy your next decade as much as your first one!

  • Little Toni

    Happy Happy Birthday young man! Much Love to you from Key West!!!

  • Vicki

    You guys are lucky to have each other. πŸ™‚

  • The Bearded Iris

    Double digits are the best! Congrats to you all and Happy Birthday to Mr. Cutie Patootie. Beautiful post Momo.

  • AliciaC

    Double digits! Rock on! Happy Birthday dude!

  • Zak

    Happy Birthday to you both!

  • alaina

    He is super cute. Happy Birthday…ten years sure flies by.

  • Joan (SurprisedMom)

    Happy, Happy Birthday to your amazing and wonderful son!

  • kristen from motherload

    Growing up we had family friends who had a daughter with Down Syndrome. They self-published a beautiful little book about her. I remember finding and reading it when I was fairly young and being blown away to learn about the intensity of all the challenges she/they faced. I didn’t know about all the medical and social struggles she faced. I remember feeling so incredibly sad reading about it, but then the end of the book was all about how they couldn’t imagine life without Martha and how much better their lives were because of her. Anyway, your post totally took me back to how I felt as a kid reading that book and learning for the first time that something so heartbreaking and difficult can also be so amazing and wonderful and rewarding.

    A huge happy Mother’s Day to you, and happy bday to your little man. He is totally adorable, and you are an awesome mama!

  • debby griffith

    I can completely agree with you. I wish things were easier for Zach but he/we would not be the same people. I have had some amazing experiences with him and would not change that.

  • Barb Best

    Happy Birthday to your very cool son & Happy Mother’s Day to you. This is an inspiring post, one to be cherished. Thanks!

  • meleah rebeccah

    Happy 10th Birthday, Adam!

    PS: I love that our son’s have the same bday!


  • mare ball

    What a precious boy! I hope his day is wonderful, full of hugs and treats! You write so beautifully about him. God bless you both!

  • AlisonH

    Happy Birthday!

  • Millicent

    love him!!! Such a blessing to your family and to your readers–he keeps us laughing!!!

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